Memorial Service...my philosophical side

It is human nature to search for Answers. Who, what, when, where why and how. I think that in the process we forget that we aren’t meant to find the answers sometimes the important part is the search itself. Somehow some of us believe that knowing will somehow make it easier. It doesn’t necessarily make it easier because the end is always the same we are born we live and we die. We are not mortal, just like all living things. Birth and Death are two of life’s greatest mysteries. There are times where a resident seems to wait until someone arrives, at times they wait till they are alone, sometimes they wait till they know their loved ones are going to be ok, now and again they just know and share that with someone and other times they just go because now seems as good a time as any and they don’t want to fight any more. We have the technology and the know how to prolong life, we now have medications and machines that keep illness at bay but it is not meant to neccessarily be a cure it is sometimes just meant to buy us time.
Time is a funny thing. It is not something you can really buy, it can be measured but it is not something you can add to, you think you can save it but you can’t really use it another day, you can waste it, you can spare it, you can test it, it can fly, it can heal, you can kill it, it can be on your side or not, there are good ones and bad ones, sometimes it stands still, while other times it passes by so quickly we didn’t realize where it has gone, some of us have more of it than others, we want it the most but use it the worst. Time means different things to us in different stages in our lives. When we are young we can’t wait to get older to do what we think we want but when we get there half the fun was actually in the wanting. As the children in our lives grow we wonder where it went. Then if some of us are fortunate enough to make it to old age we would give anything to get some of it back, to make amends, to tell someone we love them one more time, or to console them and tell them that everything was going to be ok.
Growing up with family far away I have learned it isn’t always the amount of time we spend with loved ones but how we spend it.
There is no way we can make time stand still or take some of it back all we can do is use the time we have as wisely as we can. Now is the time to say what we need to say, now is the time to forgive, now is the time to reflect and appreciate the time we had and in some cases still have with each other.